What It Took to Reclaim My Spark

🎤 Behind the Roar | August 2, 2025

I’m an overachiever and a perfectionist. It’s hard to stop at “good enough” when I’m working on something and pouring my heart and soul into it. But that’s not always a good thing. That means I don’t set proper boundaries, or even expectations on deliverables—which means inevitably I end up burned out, too stressed, mentally exhausted, and generally just done.

In my current position at work, I wear multiple hats. I will be the first to admit I don’t always juggle those hats and responsibilities in the best way, but I’m always dedicated to ensuring they are done well. But lately, I’ve been feeling it—those initial twitches of burnout, the exhaustion, the falling asleep on the couch at 6:30pm because I sat down “for just a few minutes” after work before making dinner.

I have been burning the candle at both ends for the last 3 months—publishing and launching my first self-published book, creating content for my blog and social media campaigns, starting on the next writing project—all while holding down a full-time job. And it’s catching up with me.

But this week, I paused and took time to reflect. I’ve been writing about that beautiful little spark each one of us has inside—that passion that drives us, the one thing that lights us up from the inside out with joy. For some of us, including me, I’ve been allowing that spark to flitter a bit and become a glowing ember—barely lit, holding on for dear life so it’s not fully extinguished.

And I know that I’ve been pushing too hard, too much, and for all the wrong reasons. Instead of igniting my spark and having it burn brighter for the world to see, I’ve allowed all my self-imposed expectations to drive me to the point of exhaustion. Instead of being joyful and happy about writing and creating content for my blogs and social media posts, I’ve been dreading coming up with the ideas and the right words to say to get my points across and make a difference for my readers.

So I’m taking my own advice.

I’m not writing this blog post tonight because I’m “supposed to” or because it fits neatly in my content calendar. I’m writing it because I needed to remind myself—out loud, and on purpose—that my spark isn’t something I have to chase or perform. It’s something I have to protect. Nourish. Breathe back into.

Today, I lit a candle.
Not for ambiance.
But as a declaration.

A quiet, flickering promise to myself that I won’t burn out and extinguish my own spark to light the world around me.

And maybe that’s the reminder you need, too.

You don’t have to push to prove anything.
You don’t have to be burnt out to be worthy.
You don’t have to be constantly “on” to still be powerful.

Take a moment.
Turn off your brain.
And let your spark catch fire again—from the inside out.

Together—let’s keep showing up—not as machines on auto-pilot, but as women who roar with purpose, not pressure.

— Ronda 💛

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Keep roaring!
— Ronda 💛